Rethinking “Career” for HSPs and HSS/HSPs

https://warzel.substack.com/p/what-if-people-dont-want-a-career

How “bought in” are you? Do you “fit” into your workplace culture or just pretend to? Many HSPs may feel that conformity to a restrictive cultural environment that always dangles the carrot holding the hope of better times as a way to control, intimidate, or force workers to do more work than they are compensated for is not for them at all.

Do YOU really want a career? Or a job that pays you fairly for the skills you perform? Do you seek identity from career or do you derive your identity from other areas of life? There IS a disconnect between CAREER and WORK that sneaks past many people but that seems to be changing as people have now had a chance to step back and consider the nature of work versus career.

This very useful article speaks to the growing acknowledgement among many workers that they don’t truly want to buy-in to a company culture, particularly when what is asked of them comes from a deeply distorted view of the working life. When you are paid for 40 hours of work but often work 80, much of that outside of official work that inevitably intrudes on your REAL home life, it’s easy to see that HSPs especially were never the type of personality to buy-in to a harsh, draconian, manipulative “career.” When overwork is glorified and praised and LIFE is viewed as secondary, the mix is wrong to many HSPs and HSS/HSPs.

HSS/HSPs, especially are more likely to HAVE to blaze their own trail because their need to reinvent themselves continually is a strong driver of behaviors. If you are a high sensation seeking HSP, you will do better at short-term projects, gigs, or side hustles. You will likely NOT do as well in long-term employment which can quickly give way to stagnation, boredom, and repetition. Want to drive HSS/HSPs out of their minds, stick them in a never-changing situation! They will wither and likely just leave a position rather than spend the next 20-40 years in such conditions (my reason for not making my military service a “career”).

True, some HSPs and HSS/HSPs DO find careers that work for them but many more seriously struggle through burnout after burnout. One of the main ways they also struggle is in the conformity and inhuman expectations of total devotion to a fanatical ideal of “career.” HSPs don’t do culture, they invent it 🙂 One fMRI brain study in 2007 showed that the activation in the brains of HSPs were not as activated in considering their cultural context when performing a task. Meaning HSPs, across cultures, seem to pay less attention to the inherent bias’ in cultural beliefs and norms and prefer to accurately assess for themselves how to accomplish the task.

Conformity, with that in mind, is an imposition of workplace culture on employees. Over time, less sensitive employees may come to adopt the company’s norms as their own. HSPs may cast a snarky side eye at ALL of it…

Find or better yet, CREATE work that works for YOU folks!! You are more likely at this point to be happier in something of your own creation than attempting to fit yourself into a predefined culture within a career. Then, YOU will have the opportunity to create a workplace culture.

Hmmmmmm….what would it look like if HSPs or HSS/HSPs created the culture?

4th Highly Sensitive Men’s Seminar – Dec 4th 2021

Sensitive Men Rising is indeed a fitting title to the increasing awareness and appreciation of the role we sensitive men may play in the world!! Sensitive men have always been tasked with an extra sensitivity combined with a more profound and deep inner world where problems find solutions, meaning is given to our lived experiences, and where real human leadership is rooted. Now, with the successes of a number of seminars, I am pleased to announce the 4th Highly Sensitive Men’s Seminar, to be held Dec. 4th from 2-6pm, CST via Zoom!!

Join me, Dr. Tracy Cooper, along with guest speakers to be announced soon, for a unique gathering of highly sensitive men to continue the collective effort to raise consciousness in sensitive men around their trait, it’s inherent potential, and how they may choose to “show up” in an increasingly challenging world desperately in need of real leadership and men who can embody and express a masculinity that is benevolent, mentoring, patient, and kind.

Explore how quiet leadership may be the pathway to meaningful influence and goal achievement, as opposed to more hegemonic ideals about leaders and how they “should” act. Learn about divergent-convergent thinking and how they work together in close synchrony to yield better solutions and better planning. ReVision for yourself how you might choose to “show up” in this world where opportunities abound as never before but also age-old human challenges still remind us that there is much work to be done by skillful, creative, and passionate head and heart leaders!! The 4th Highly Sensitive Men’s Seminar will be a good one that you won’t want to miss!!

PLEASE help me make this the biggest Sensitive Men’s Seminar yet by sharing with your social media!! We need to reach so many more sensitive men who may benefit from this work.

Join us! HSP Self-Care Seminar Aug 21st Noon-5pm CST

THIS Saturday, Aug. 21st from Noon-5pm, CST IS the date for our HSP Self-Care Seminar! Join us in warm community for an exploration of self-care in ways you have probably not considered but which you will benefit from tremendously.

Self-care is a trendy buzzword and I do not use it in that sense. Self-care, as I advocate for it, is a serious daily practice designed to help better one’s life and build sustainability. Too many of us tend to burn out because we don’t know our trait very well, don’t know our specific needs, and take a piecemeal approach to managing our lives, rather than a comprehensive approach that will help move you from where you are to where you’d like to be in terms of well-being and well-functioning.

If you’ve done the other self-care seminars or workshops, I invite you to view mine as very different and novel, as you may have come to expect from my work.

See you Saturday!!

HSP Monthly Meeting – August 7th 2021 with Tracy Cooper PhD

Join us Saturday, August 7th from Noon – 130pm CST for our HSP Monthly Meeting where we will devote the entire meeting to the topic of emotion regulation. Fascinating topic that is of crucial importance to all HSPs, HSS,HSPs. As always, the meeting is as much about being in community with other HSPs, HSS,HSPs as exploring the topic/s.

HSP Self-Care Seminar Aug. 21st, 2021

Just in time before the fall rush of activities comes this self-care seminar for HSPs!This isn’t your typical self-care curriculum, rather, we do what we HSPs are known for and go deeper into what self-care means to us and why it needs to become a serious daily practice.As always with my seminars, it’s also about connection with other HSPs and being in community for an all-too-brief Saturday afternoon 🙂 Join us…

Navigating the World as a High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Man with Dr. Tracy Cooper

We can never cover the D.O.E.S. aspects of high sensitivity too much and, since it is so often overlooked, we can not discuss what it means to be high in sensation seeking AND highly sensitive AND a man too much. Here is a recent podcast that I did with Lisa Lewis, MA, LMFT, LPCC.

http://amiokpodcast.com/episode6/

Exploring High Sensation Seeking & Highly Sensitive Men with Dr. Tracy Cooper

https://www.buzzsprout.com/1306366/8862061

I’m pleased to share this new podcast that I did recently with Jules De Vitto from Highly Sensitive Humans 🙂 In this one, we discuss high sensation seeking HSPs and, of course, sensitive men, enjoy!

The Highly Sensitive Person with Dr. Tracy Cooper

Here’s a lively interview with Ray and Oana of Campion Consultants in the UK covering a variety of HSP topics 🙂