Highly Sensitive Thrill-Seekers: Reframed

Think being highly sensitive means you always prefer a quiet life on the sidelines?  Our 2023 study found that for 1 in 3 sensitive people, that stereotype is completely wrong

1. The “Sensitive Thrill-Seeker” is a significant group (25-30% overlap)

The study specifically looked at people who scored in the top 50% for sensation seeking and found that 25% of them were also highly sensitive. Conversely, when looking at the highly sensitive group (the top 34% of the sample), nearly 30% (21 out of 72) also qualified as high sensation seekers. This confirms that a substantial portion of sensitive people, roughly 1 in 3, have a dual nature that craves both depth and intensity.

2. You can crave adventure without being reckless

The study found that while highly sensitive people generally avoid “classic” physical risks (like dangerous driving or gambling), they do score high on seeking new experiences, disinhibition, and adventure when measured correctly. If you love intense travel, deep conversations, or complex art but hate danger, you aren’t “faking” your sensation seeking, you’re just doing it the HSP way.​

3. “Impulsivity” might actually be overwhelm in disguise

One of the biggest “aha” moments was a link between high sensitivity and “negative urgency,” the tendency to act rashly when you feel bad. For an HSS/HSP, what looks like impulsive behavior might actually be a coping mechanism to escape overstimulation. If you find yourself making rash decisions only when you’re stressed, it’s likely your nervous system trying to hit the “eject” button on the pressure!

4. The “Reverse-Score” Trap: Why you might have mistyped yourself.
The study discovered that standard personality tests often mislabel HSPs as low sensation seekers simply because HSPs answer “trick questions” (reverse-scored items) more carefully than others. This means many sensitive people may have been told they aren’t sensation seekers just because they are conscientious test-takers, not because they lack the drive for adventure. If you’ve ever taken a test that said you were ‘low’ on adventure but ‘high’ on sensitivity, the test might have been flawed, not you.

5. The “Gas and Brake” Dilemma (Why you feel constantly conflicted)
HSS/HSPs face a unique challenge that other groups don’t: a persistent “inner conflict” between two opposing biological needs. You constantly have to negotiate between your need for novelty (the gas) and your need to withdraw and process (the brake).

  • The specific insight: The study highlights that this isn’t just a mood swing, it’s a structural personality conflict. This group struggles more than others to find partners, friends, and careers that fit both sides, often leading to burnout because they try to keep up with their “adventurous” side while ignoring their “sensitive” side until they crash.

6. It explains why “small talk” feels physically painful

The study validated the specific Sensation Seeking Scale for Highly Sensitive Persons (SSSHSP), which includes items like “I can become almost painfully bored in some conversations.” This is a huge validation: it proves that for this group, overstimulation isn’t the only enemy—under-stimulation (boredom) is just as stressful. If you feel drained by mundane routine or shallow chat, it’s not because you’re snobby; it’s a biological need for meaningful intensity.

7. It exposes a major “blind spot” for therapists and educators

Professionals often fail to recognize high sensitivity in people who are outgoing, adventurous, or high-energy. Because these people don’t fit the “shy/anxious” stereotype, their sensitivity is missed, leading to bad advice (like being told to “push through” overwhelm). This article matters because it tells the medical and educational world: Stop assuming all sensitive people are quiet wallflowers.

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https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2666518223000050

The 2025 High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person’s Workshop!!

The 2025 High Sensation Seeking Highly Sensitive Person’s Workshop!! Join me Saturday November 1st from Noon-3pm CST via Zoom for what is shaping up to be a timely, informative (maybe transformative), and connecting experience!!

I’m so excited to announce I will be joined this by the amazing power duo of Randy Grasser and Annet van Duinen of The Living Adventurers!! Annet (a fellow international consultant on high sensitivity and certified ICF life coach) and Randy (a lifelong thrill seeker with a deep heart and passionate commitment to sharing what he’s learned as an adventurer) team up with me to tackle the topic of RESILIENCE and how we might cultivate it, apply it to varying life situations, and, ultimately, come to think of this capacity to weather adversity as a growth mechanism for personality development and enhancement.

Sensitive Sensation Seekers, as I like to shorten the HSS/HSP label, intentionally place ourselves in high growth circumstances lead by our genetic trait known as Sensation Seeking. Couple that copious ‘fodder’ with the well-known deep processing of our highly sensitive sides and you have a powerful combination for both experiencing life in a deeper and richer way, as well as providing expansion for our sensitive sides, which thrive on reflecting and contextualizing our lived experiences!!

I know I am truly looking forward to creating a workshop that tantalizes the sensation seeker, while offering connection and communion with likeminded sensitives!!

Join us Saturday November 1st, 2025 and help us expand the world of Sensitive Sensation Seekers knowing that we are up to 50% of the highly sensitive population!! We need to be talking about Sensitive Sensation Seekers so much more and RESILIENCE is bedrock for enabling us to face adversity with the skills and confidence to transcend our perceived ‘limitations!!’

Registration link: https://HSSHSP2025.eventbrite.com

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